It is a shame Witnesses are taught what to think not how to think ... They are afraid to make a personal decision w/o checking with the Society first . I know all to well ,my Mom did that constantly .
troubled mind
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Grandparent's Day Origins
by garyneal ini post this topic for as far as i (and some of the people that i know) know, this holiday is new.
i looked at wikipedia and apparently it originated in 1978 but i could not find any information regarding whether or not this holiday had any pagan origins.. we all know the jehovah's witnesses do not celebrate any holidays and naturally when i asked my wife about this 'new' holiday she was a bit provoked.
she went on with the usual spiel of "why do we need a special day to celebrate our grandparents?
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Any weird/funny local needs in your congo?
by XPeterX inwe were told to "be more generous" and that we should stop criticising the elders on how they handle matters.
(the next week a jw got df'd).
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One on personal hygiene A hall full of adults were instructed how to shower daily and not use perfume to cover odor .......we all suffered through this talk because one elderly sister had a BO problem . I was so embarrassed for her ! Really shouldn't another sister be used to kindly speak to the woman in private ?
Another one was on how to keep our home ,car and service bag clean and orderly . Our yard should be the best in the neighborhood ! REALLY ....? When did we have time to manicure our lawns with all our free time from work spent in service or meetings . The house thing was because we had a sister that was a hoarder and her home was packed full .
We had a hall full of young teens so there was always talks about porn and dating , smoking ,and drinking .......
Did anyone else cringe everytime it was time for the local needs talk or did you look forward to it so you would finally know why so and so was DF'd ??
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Zoo time and silly things
by Quentin ini sent an e-mail tonight that got me all nostalgic.
when i was in my late teens myself and two or three others from the kh would go over to forest park in ft. worth, usualy winding up at the zoo, it was free back then.
all of us being jws we had a lot of pent up energy and would invent games to play, which often involved chasing each other around with water pistols, this we did at the zoo.. we had another past time.
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I am just now getting stories from my sons about the antics they and their JW friends were up to as teens .
So far they have shared :
They pulled each other on sleds behind their cars , stole yard holiday decorations , rolled bowling balls down hilly streets in subdivisons . A few snuck into the local pool and swam at night . Under age drinking ....once they soaked a whole bottle of vodka into a watermelon and then ate it and got sick . Wandering around rural cemetaries at night playing hide and seek . Climbing cell phone tower !
I am sure they have more stories ....just not ones Mom will ever hear
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Were you Stalked or Chased After Once you Exited the JW's by Elders ?
by flipper ini tried to fade off the map by moving 30 miles initially in 2004 after i exited in late 2003 .
the first several years they didn't bother me.
i ran into a elder from my former congregation in late 2005 in an antique store - he tried telling me i was wrong for stopping attending meetings.
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They started to ,but because I had read so much on here I knew 'to nip it in the bud '.
After a sheparding call were I honestly explained how I truly felt about going back to meetings, the Elders started calling and stopping by uninvited . Then they started getting information from someone that I had youtube videos saved to favorites that were apostate in nature . So the phone calls increased with them leaving messages that 'they needed to talk to me asap" .
I told an Elder to inform the rest of the body I had no desire to answer any questions about my life to them . I told him to let all the Elders know I no longer wanted phone calls or visits . When this was ignored I went to the police ,and filed a letter requesting the Elders to cease harrassment . One letter was put in a police file the other was sent to the Body of Elders . That same day I recieved an invitation to a JC .....that letter was also given to the police and the officer promised to personally call the Elders and explain what NO CONTACT meant .....So far it has worked
I have no idea if they have officially declared me DA'd ,but I think they are waiting for a more outward appearance of disassociation ...like me decorating my house for Christmas .
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Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible
by troubled mind inmy husband and i just went to subway for lunch .
we park right next to the truck of the elder that came questioning me earlier this summer .
then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ....... when we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,i said , "what .....you laughing because i am invisible now ??
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Ziddina _ I WISH that was my house ! That was actually another persons yard in town ....I keep saying that is what our house is going to look like this winter !
Snoozy , moving away would be GREAT .....I fantasize about it everyday
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Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible
by troubled mind inmy husband and i just went to subway for lunch .
we park right next to the truck of the elder that came questioning me earlier this summer .
then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ....... when we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,i said , "what .....you laughing because i am invisible now ??
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ZID ...thank you I love being sparkely in fact I love it so much I want to share with everyone on my block (including the six witness families just how Sparkely I can be ! )
Seriously , thank you all for being so supportive . I really didn't think this incident got to me .....but of course it hurts ....this couple use to be considered some of our BEST friends .. I have always treated hurt by laughing it off or making a joke ,but deep down hurt is hurt . I guess that sends the wrong message to my husband ,maybe this would be a good time to have a heart to heart talk about how I really feel .
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Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible
by troubled mind inmy husband and i just went to subway for lunch .
we park right next to the truck of the elder that came questioning me earlier this summer .
then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ....... when we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,i said , "what .....you laughing because i am invisible now ??
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I agree serenitynow it was rude, and it would have been nice to have him point that out to them ,alas that isn't my life ..
Actually it probably caught my husband off guard ,this is the first time he has experienced the shunning I get all the time . I have told him it has been going on for quite a long time to me .
Whenever the witnesses see me at the store or around town they run the other way . Most of the time people still say hi to him so he doesn't really get how crappy it feels , now maybe he will think about it and the next time he will speak up for me .....I can at least hope so
He loves being the 'poor' husband married to the wicked woman
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Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible
by troubled mind inmy husband and i just went to subway for lunch .
we park right next to the truck of the elder that came questioning me earlier this summer .
then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ....... when we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,i said , "what .....you laughing because i am invisible now ??
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thanks zid .....but that is frightening let me put something over that skype camera ....I don't have any make-up on right now
It isn't that big of a deal , just annoying how brain dead they are and over righteous ...
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Well it is confirmed ...I am invisible
by troubled mind inmy husband and i just went to subway for lunch .
we park right next to the truck of the elder that came questioning me earlier this summer .
then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ....... when we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,i said , "what .....you laughing because i am invisible now ??
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My husband and I just went to Subway for lunch . We park right next to the truck of the Elder that came questioning me earlier this summer . As we walk in the door , he is there holding it open for another customer . As we enter he looks over me and says Hi to my husband ....then a few seconds later his wife comes around the corner and says "OH HI (stating my husbands name and clearly not saying mine ) Well maybe he is just making sure he is following the cease contact letter to it's fullest extent !
Then their daughter was the girl that had to wait on us ...she was nice ,but clearly we are just another customer now ......
When we sat down to eat my husband had a smirk on his face ,I said , "What .....you laughing because I am invisible now ??" ,
' YEP '.....he says (he can be insensitive )
Should I remind him it is his fault he didn't keep his wife in submission ???
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This is my favorite picture for the moment .I have it hangiong on my fridge . It is a picture I took this summer while on vacation in Michigan on Lake Superior . It was such a relaxing peaceful time ....want to hold onto that feeling for as long as I can .
